!!> Epub ➡ Altruism: The Power of Compassion to Change Yourself and the World ➠ Author Matthieu Ricard – Submitalink.info

!!> Epub ➡ Altruism: The Power of Compassion to Change Yourself and the World ➠ Author Matthieu Ricard – Submitalink.info I finished this over a month ago However, I wanted to take the time to formulate a review because it s SO good In all fairness, I didn t technically read it, but rather listened thanks Hoopla St Louis County Library As such, I don t have an easy way to reference quotes, etc.That said, he mentions several times in the book wanting to present an overview of Altruism If 800 pages or a 30 hour audio book counts as an overview, I can t imagine what he thinks of as in depth.Ricard touches on no I finished this over a month ago However, I wanted to take the time to formulate a review because it s SO good In all fairness, I didn t technically read it, but rather listened thanks Hoopla St Louis County Library As such, I don t have an easy way to reference quotes, etc.That said, he mentions several times in the book wanting to present an overview of Altruism If 800 pages or a 30 hour audio book counts as an overview, I can t imagine what he thinks of as in depth.Ricard touches on not just altruism in a spiritual religious sense, but EVERYTHING else He speaks on politics, economics, environment, science which he isthan qualified to do as he has a PhD in molecular genetics , andOne of these days, I d like to read listen toof his works because he not only presented the issues, but he also presented solutions I would highly recommend taking the time again, 30 hour audio book to listen to this book This book is only partly successful in that it successfully discusses how altruism can positively change an individual and by extension the world, but it never successfully explains how this would be globally effective in modern society with sociopaths, Ayn Rand devotees, etc There is a lot in this book, to like and or dislike if you are a devout meat eater, you may not wish to read this book It gives insight into trying to be a better person, for yourself, your family and the planet There are many hidden agendas that are brought to the forefront by companies, people, and the government It also shows how far money changes people and how truly consumable a society we have become but only because we have been taught Truly a read that makes one think. Altruism would have been to make this book a lot shorter As with all self help, what matters is if it resonates Maybe this is the book you need now, but it didn t do it for me I felt it lost the forest for the trees Be nice OK Nuff said That doesn t really take 864 pages I don t think the central point requires all the scientifical and Buddhist stuff, etc. Great concept, but read like a textbook Would love the cliff notes version altruism makes you feel better and is a part of human behaviour My dear friend, Barbara Reynolds, who now lives in Petaluma, CA informed me in a handwritten letter that she d seen Matthieu Ricard on some talk show and was intrigued about his book, ALTRUISM It inspired me to order my own copy from.com I m glad I did.This book is almost like a text book about how to live aenriched and fulfilling life by being compassionate through love and sharing I loved the many lines and tips I received It took me a long time to read as I wanted to enrich m My dear friend, Barbara Reynolds, who now lives in Petaluma, CA informed me in a handwritten letter that she d seen Matthieu Ricard on some talk show and was intrigued about his book, ALTRUISM It inspired me to order my own copy from.com I m glad I did.This book is almost like a text book about how to live aenriched and fulfilling life by being compassionate through love and sharing I loved the many lines and tips I received It took me a long time to read as I wanted to enrich myself slowly as if experiencing a worthwhile meditation I strongly recommend this book to anyone It s truly excellent YOU will get a lot of great advice from it while enriching yourself with aHAPPY life.Here are some of the many excerpts lines I was able to capture while reading Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness Martin Luther King Jr The Buddhist Vision Every human possesses and indestructible potential for goodness and enlightenment.Learning how to read or learning a musical instrument induces a restructuring in the brain at both the functional and structural levels This is also what happens when one trains in developing altruistic love and compassion Altruism implies the elimination of selfish desire and of egocentrism, as well as leading a life devoted to the well being of others Auguste Comte First they ignore you Then they laugh at you Then they fight you Finally, you WIN GhandhiAltruistic love is characterized by unconditional kindness toward ALL BEINGS and is apt to be expressed at any time in favor of every being in particular LOVE fears nothing and no one It cuts through the fear at is very root GhandiLack of LOVE, of meaning, of confidence in oneself, and the absence of a clear direction in their lives weigh so heavily that it sometimes leads them to self destruction These extreme actions are a cry of despair, a call for help, a way of self expression for those who do not know how to find happiness, or who have been prevented from doing so by the brutality of external conditions If we practice an eye for an eye, said Ghandi, and a tooth for a tooth, soon the whole world will be blind and toothless The Seventh Dalai Lama wrote in the 18th Century IF THERE IS A WAY TO FREE OURSELVES FROM SUFFERINGWE MUST USE EVERY MOMENT TO FIND IT.ONLY A FOOL WANTS TO GO ON SUFFERING,ISN T IS SAD TO KNOWINGLY IMBIBE POISON The word empathy refers to the ability to feel the other from within.Affective empathy occurs when we enter into resonance with the situation and feelings of another person, with the emotions that are shown by the person s facial expressions, gaze, tone of voice, body language, and behavior WAR is a monstrous lack of imagination Franz Kafka Do NOT do unto others as you would have them done unto you They may have different tastes George Bernard Shaw There are two kinds of pity One, the weak and sentimental kind, which is really nothan the heart s impatience to be rid as quickly as possible of the painful emotion aroused by the sight of another s unhappiness and the other, the only kind that counts, the unsentimental but creative kind, which knows what it is about and is determined to hold out, in patience and forbearance, to the very limit of its strength and even beyond Stefan ZweigThe characteristics of the person who feels empathy will also have an influence If, for example, I am not subject to vertigo, I will have trouble entering into empathic resonance with a person who is prey to that distress, but that will not prevent me from being aware of the fact that the other needs help or comfort.COMPASSION is awareness of the other s situation, and is accompanied by the wish to relieve suffering and to procure the other s happiness.Love and Compassion are positive states of mind, which reinforce one s inner ability to confront others suffering and to care better for them If a child is hospitalized, the presence of a loving mother at his side who holds his hand and comforts him with tender words will no doubt do himgood than the anxiety of a mother overwhelmed with empathic distress who, unable to bear the sight of her sick child, paces back and forth in the hallway Positive emotions like joy, contentment, gratitude, wonder, enthusiasm, inspiration, and love have an additional dimension that is not reducible to neutrality of mind They are a source of profound satisfaction This implies that in order to flourish in life one must foster the blossoming of positive emotions LOVE is the supreme emotion Barbara FredericksonDictionaries define love as the inclination of one person for another or as a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties The Eskimos had fifty two names for snow because it was important to them, there outhg to be as many for LOVE Margaret Atwood LOVE is a positive resonance that manifests when three events occur simultaneously the sharing of one or several positive emotions, a synchrony between the behavior and the physiological reactions of two people, and the intention to contribute to the other s well being, an intention that engenders mutual care Barbara FredericksonScientific data has shown how LOVE, or its absence, fundamentally changes our physiology and the regulation of a group of biochemical substances, substances that can even influence the way our genes are expressed in our cells This ensemble of complex interactions profoundly affects our physical health, our vitality, and our well being.Studies have now established that inhaling sprays of oxytocin made peopleconfident,generous,cooperative,sensitive to others emotions,constructive in communications, andcharitable in their judgments Oxytocin plays an important role in calming and connecting in contrast to the fight or flight reflex To survive and prosper, oxytocin was described by neurobiologists as the great facilitator of life Subjects who had practiced meditation feltlove, involvement in their daily activities, serenity, joy, and other beneficial emotions When you re alone, thinking about those you love, reflecting on past loving connections, yearning for , or even when you re practicing loving kindness meditation or writing an impassioned love letter, you ARE NOT in the moment experiencing TRUE LOVE They are NOT yet shared, and so they lack the critical and undeniably physical ingredient of resonance Physical presence is key to love.ALL THE JOY THE WORLD CONTAINSHAS COME THROUGH WISHING HAPPINESS FOR OTHERS.ALL THE MISERY THE WORLD CONTAINSHAS COME THROUGH WANTING PLEASURE FOR ONESELF Shantideva, a 7th Century Indian Buddhist master in his work, THE PATH TOWARDS AWAKENING The true altruist is one who never hopes for a reward He responds to the needs of others out of his natural compassion Cause and effect are unfailing, so his actions to benefit others are sure to bear fruit but he never counts on it Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, Tibetan Master Harmful mental states always tend to distance us a littlefrom that feeling of harmony with oneself French philosopher, Michel Terestchenko calls it fidelity to self I actually think that humans are instrinsically good You always have to see the good, the beautiful, in a person, never deny, always look for the greatness of people, without any distinction of religion, caste, or way of thinking Father Ceyrac Altruism can be thought of as heroic when It has the aim of helping someone else.It involves a major risk or sacrifice.It is not linked to a reward It is voluntary It is tempting, if the only tool you have is hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail Abraham Malsow cautions We are selfish because the only thing we really want is to have pleasant experiences, to prolong them, and to avoid or curtail unpleasant experiences John Stuart Mill, English philosopher I didn t have a choice Margot, a woman who had taken considerable risks to protect Jews persecuted by the Nazis, explained it this way Suppose somebody drowns If you stop to think, Shall I Shall I not Eeny, meeny, miney, mo You can t do that You either help or you don t You don t walk away You don t walk away from somebody who needs real help The Dalai Lama often says that love isnatural than hatred since from birth to death we all need, in welfare and others In general, he adds, we feel good when we show kindness to others, and bad when we harm others I always knew that deep down in every human heart, there is mercy and generosity No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate they can be taught to love, for love comesnaturally to the human heart that its opposite Even in the grimmest times in prison when my comrades and I were pusched to our limits I would see a glimmer of humanity in one of the guards, perhaps just for a second, but it was enough to reassure me and keep me going HUMAN goodness is a flame that can be hidden but never extinguished NELSON MANDELLAAN OLD CHEROKEE GIVING ADVICE TO HIS GRANDSON A fight is going on inside me, he said to the boy It is a terrible fight between two wolves One is EVIL he is hatred, anger, greed, envy, arrogance, grudge, resentment, miserliness, and cowardliness The other is GOOD he is happiness, joy, serenity, love, kindness, compassion, hope, humility, generosity, truthfulness and confidence They are also fighting inside you and inside every other person, too THE CHILD thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, Which wolf will win The old Cherokee simply replied, The one you feed KIN SELECTION All those who are genetically related In fact, the sister of a given individual has an average of 50% of genes in common with him a first cousin 25% a niece 12.5% and so on We are survival machines robot vehicles blindly programmed to preserve the selfish molecules known as genes Richard DawkinsFour parental attitudes that are the most apt to favor altruistic behavior in children expressing affection acting in an altruistic way oneself, thereby serving as an example making children aware of the impact of their actions on others providing children with the opportunity to be useful to others IF you teach me something, I ll forget it if you show me something, I might remember it if you make me do something, I will put it into practice CONFUCIUSThe love and tenderness that children receive in early childhood profoundly influence the rest of their lives.Kindness is one of the most powerful determinants of a feeling of accomplishment and contentment.Defining BENEVOLENCE It s neither genius, nor glory, nor love that measures the loftiness of the human soul it s benevolence Henri LacordaireScientific research in the field of neuroplasticity shows that any form of training leads to a reconfiguring in the brain, on both the functional and structural levels Society and its institutions influence and condition individuals As this interaction continues over the course of generations, culture and individuals mutually shape each other We all share the same human nature, feel the same emotions of joy and sadness, benevolence or anger, and are all trying to avoid suffering Thus as human beings we are basically the same The Dalai LamaNeuroplasticity is a term that takes into account the fact that the brain changes constantly when an individual is exposed to new situations.In 1997, Fred Gage placed rats alone in an empty box for a month in which they had nothing to do except eat once a day Then he transferred them to a veritable DISNEYLAND for rats, with tunnels, wheels, pools, and various climbing elements, as well as other rats to keep them company The repercussions of this transfer on the brain were surprising In forty five days, the hippocampus area of the brain associated with learning new skills increased 15% in volume, even among the older rats, going on aerage from 270,000 neurons to 317,000 neurons Until one dies, new neurons continue to form in certain regions of the human brain up to 1000 per day This is occurring throughout life Six types of MEDITATION focused attention altruistic love combined with compassion open presence visualization of mental images fearlessness devotionResearch has shown that a few weeks of MEDITATION , at the rate of thirty minutes a day induced significant changes in cerebral activity, the immune system, one s quality of attention, and many other parameters.People havecontrol of their emotions behavealtruistically than those who do not A free, serene mind islikely to consider painful situations and the suffering of others from an altruistic point of view than a mind constantly disturbed by internal conflicts and preoccupied with its own reactions fear, anxiety, anger, etcTo MEDITATE on altruistic love, you should start by realizing that deep down you want to avoid suffering, and you wish for happiness This step is especially important for those who have a negative image of themselves and have suffered a lot, and who thing they are not meant to be happy Give rise to a welcoming, tolerant, kind attitude toward yourself decide that from now on you wish the best for yourself.Once you have recognized this aspiration, you then have to realize that it is shared by all beings Acknowledge our interdependence The shirt you wear, the glass you drink from, the house you live in all these are possible only thanks to the activity of countless others The simplest object in your everyday life is filled with the presence of others Reflect on the origin of the white sheet of paper on which you write Imagine the lumberjack who cut down the tree, the paper factory worker, the truck driver, the shopkeeper like any of us, they all have a life, with joys and sufferings, parents and friends They all share our humanity none of them wants to suffer This awareness should make us feel closer to all these beings, to feel empathy for them, to be concerned about their fate and to wish them well.It is easier to begin training in altruistic love by thinking about someone dear to you Imagine a smiling child coming up to us and looking at us happily, trustingly, full of innocence You pat the child s head, look at it tenderly, and take it in your arms, as you feel unconditional love, and kindness Let yourself be complete filled with his love, which wants nothing but the happiness of this child Remain for a few moments in full awareness of this love, without any other thoughts THEN extend these loving thoughts to people you know less well and to strangers To love is to find pleasure in the happiness of others Thus the habit of loving someone is nothing other than the benevolence by which we want the good of others, not for the profit that we gain from it, but because it is agreeable to us in itself LeibnizWhen you breathe OUT, think that your heart is a brilliant sphere of light from which rays of white light carry your happiness to all being, all over the world When you breathe IN, take their sufferings on yourself in the form of a dense, black cloud, which penetrates your heart and dissolves into white light without leaving a trace.A number of experiments showing that feeling connected to others increases our psychological well being and physical health, and diminishes the risk of depression The feeling of connection and belonging to a wider community also increases empathy and fosters behavior based on trust and cooperation.TAKING CONTROL OF ONE S LIFE Let s take the example of a sailor on his boat his freedom does not consist in letting his boat drift at the mercy of the winds and currents in that case, he wouldn t be navigating but drifting but in being master of this boat, taking the tiller, trimming his sails, and navigating in the direction he has chosen.FORGET about self esteem and concentrateon self control and self discipline Authentic self confidence is born from a feeling of balance with oneself, based on a peaceful strength that is not threatened by external circumstances or inner fears, a freedom beyond fascination with image and fear of losing it Christophe AndreGOD did not create you so you d be like everyone else.WHAT MAKES ME SO SPECIAL What is the difference between me and everyone else that justifies placing myself in this special category Am Iintelligent Do I enjoy my lifeAre my accomplishments greater Do I have needs or abilities that are so different from the needs or abilities of others In short, what makes me so special Failing an answer, it turns out that Ethical Egoism is an arbitrary doctrine in the same way that racism is arbitrary And this, in addition to explaining why Ethical Egoism is unacceptable, also sheds some light on the question of why we should care for others We should care for the interest of other people for the same reason we care for our own interests for their needs and desires are comparable to our own James Rachels, American philosopherBasically, kindness and compassion for oneself comes down to asking oneself, What is really good for me The psychologist Heinz Kohut insisted on the idea that to feel that one belongs is one of the main aspirations of human beings One of the major causes for mental health problems is the feeling of being cut off from others To reinforce the feeling of being connected to the world and to all beings, Paul Gilbert suggests to his patients visualizations like this I would like you to IMAGINE a sea in front of you that is a beautiful blue, is warm and calm, lapping on a sandy shore Imagine that you are standing just in the water with the water lapping gently at your feet Now as you look out over the sea to the horizon imagine that this sea has been here for millions of years, was a source of life It has seen many things in the history of life and knows many things Now imagine the sea has complete acceptance for you, that it knows of your struggles and pain Allow yourself to feel connected to the sea, its power and wisdom in complete acceptance of you Once one has established a better relationship with oneself, it becomes easier to feel kindness and compassion for others.Research on forgiveness in particular has shown that an important stage in the process of forgiveness consisted of replacing anger with empathy Empath is a vital component of our humanity Without it, we have difficulty giving meaning to our existence, connecting to others, and finding emotional balance We can also drift toward indifference, coldness, and cruelty.Violence is often used by humans and animals to obtain food, reproduce, defend themselves, conquer or protect a territory, or assert one s authority or hierarchical rank People don t change because of a magic touch They grow Wilbert Rideau You have to do it on your own I don t know of anypowerful way to change people than education Wilbert RideauAfter two decades of studies on the influence of television, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania have demonstrated that TV viewers who constantly watch negative actions show an increased tendency to act in the same way, and that theone watches television, theinclined one is to thing that people are selfish and would deceive us at the first opportunity.and there is MUCH MORE but I have nocharacters left A looooooooooooooong read, but full of fine gems and things to discuss, debate, and consider. I won this in a Goodreads giveaway.There was a lot to get through in this book but everything was relevant We all have the capacity for altruism as shown in the research the author presents Witheffort we can improve society withattention and cultivation of this. The Author Of The International Bestseller Happiness Makes A Passionate Case For Altruism And Why We Need It Now Than Ever In Happiness, Matthieu Ricard Demonstrated That True Happiness Is Not Tied To Fleeting Moments Or Sensations, But Is An Enduring State Of Soul Rooted In Mindfulness And Compassion For Others Now He Turns His Lens From The Personal To The Global, With A Rousing Argument That Altruism Genuine Concern For The Well Being Of Others Could Be The Saving Grace Of The St Century It Is, He Believes, The Vital Thread That Can Answer The Main Challenges Of Our Time The Economy In The Short Term, Life Satisfaction In The Mid Term, And Environment In The Long Term Ricard S Message Has Been Taken Up By Major Economists And Thinkers, Including Dennis Snower, Amartya Sen, Joseph Stiglitz, And George Soros Matthieu Ricard Makes A Robust And Passionate Case For Cultivating Altruistic Love And Compassion As The Best Means For Simultaneously Benefitting Ourselves And Our Society It S A Fresh Outlook On An Ardent Struggle And One That Just Might Make The World A Better Place

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