The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and What if charisma could be taught For the first time, science and technology have taken charisma apart, figured it out and turned it into an applied science In controlled laboratory experiments, researchers could raise or lower people s level of charisma as if they were turning a dial What you ll find here is practical magic unique knowledge, drawn from a variety of sciences, revealing what charisma really is and how it works You ll get both the insights and the techniques you need to apply this knowledge The world will become your lab, and every person you meet, a chance to experimentThe Charisma Myth is a mix of fun stories, sound science, and practical tools Cabane takes a hard scientific approach to a heretofore mystical topic, covering what charisma actually is, how it is learned, what its side effects are, and how to handle them Despite the title, the book didn t dispel the myth that charisma can be learned If you ve read articles or books on public speaking, you ll find many of the same recommendations in this book be authentic, really listen to people, be willing to be vulnerable and reveal something personal about yourself, practice and visualize your presentations, and mirror the person whom you want to build a rapport There were a few suggestions that were new for me divide and conquer convince your detracto Despite the title, the book didn t dispel the myth that charisma can be learned If you ve read articles or books on public speaking, you ll find many of the same recommendations in this book be authentic, really listen to people, be willing to be vulnerable and reveal something personal about yourself, practice and visualize your presentations, and mirror the person whom you want to build a rapport There were a few suggestions that were new for me divide and conquer convince your detractors separately, not when they re all together in a big, important meeting , dress well and comfortable look good but not go overboard that you re uncomfortable and give off a negative body language , and reframe stressful situations into positive ones such as instead of thinking about how you might mess up a presentation, think about how you got this assignment because your boss has such confidence in your abilities.While the author may have helped her clients become charismatic, I don t think it s something that can simply be learned from a book It probably requires a coach understanding what you re facing and giving advice that specifically address your problems If charisma could be gained through authentically wanting to connect with the person, listening intently, and mirroring, we would have learned it in high school Loy Machedo s Book Review The Charisma Myth How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox CabaneThere are some books which you cannot put down And then there are certain books that you can read over and over again Olivia Fox Cabane s book fuses the ethos of Social Psychology, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Neuropsychology Research with Emotional Intelligence and the Zen Buddhist Philosophies to come up with The Charisma Myth After reading Robert B Cialdini s Loy Machedo s Book Review The Charisma Myth How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox CabaneThere are some books which you cannot put down And then there are certain books that you can read over and over again Olivia Fox Cabane s book fuses the ethos of Social Psychology, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Neuropsychology Research with Emotional Intelligence and the Zen Buddhist Philosophies to come up with The Charisma Myth After reading Robert B Cialdini s book Influence The Psychology of Persuasion and Yes 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive, I would say this another landmark book in my collection In The Charisma Myth, Olivia Fox Cabane makes a compelling argument that charisma is the product of a certain mindset and behaviors which are both attainable and trainable The book proves effective with its list of quotes, anecdotes, thought provoking theories and logical explanations For a NLP Hypnosis practitioner like me, any book that involves a practice till you perfect approach is always a welcome addition So if you feel this is a book that only gives you an entertaining read, well get surprised It also has a list of to do items that you can keep working on and perfect over a period of time Oh by the way, there are a lot of processes described in this book which are nothing short of the NLP model of behaving Most of the principles stated give you a D j vu of the Principles promulgated by Richard Bandler John Grinder and yes, in time made famous by Tony Robbins To grab your attention in the beginning, Fox begins her book by stating the amazing story of Marilyn Monroe and how she incorporated Charisma that made her transform from Norma Jeane Mortenson to the Legendary Sensual Goddess of Hollywood Then she states the following tips, that makes you want to read1 Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences2 Reduce the speed and rapidity of nodding3 Pause for two seconds before you speak The book takes the approach of focusing on your mindset, your attitude, choice of behaviors, what you think, your body language and that in turn affects and impacts how you communicate The chapters in the book are as follows Chapter 1 Charisma DemystifiedChapter 2 The Charismatic Behaviors Presence, Power and WarmthChapter 3 The Obstacles to Presence, Power and WarmthChapter 4 Overcoming the ObstaclesChapter 5 Creating Charismatic Mental StatesChapter 6 Different Charisma StatesChapter 7 Charismatic First ImpressionsChapter 8 Speaking and Listening with CharismaChapter 9 Charismatic Body LanguageChapter 10 Difficult SituationsChapter 11 Presenting with CharismaChapter 12 Charisma in CrisisChapter 13 the charismatic Life Rising to the Challenge.If I were to compile her words of wisdom, here are some of the pointers she shares.1 Presence mindful attention, patient listening, avoiding interruption2 Power appearance, clothing, occupy space, positive wording avoid don t , placebo effect3 Warmth chin down, eye contact, Duchenne smile mouth corners, eye corners , gratitude, compassion, appreciation counteract hedonic adaptation 4 Goodwill wishing the other person well5 Empathy understanding the other s experience6 Altruism7 Compassion a combination of empathy goodwill8 Forgiveness of self and others9 Self compassion self acceptance Positively correlated with emotional resilience, sense of personal responsibility, accountability, sense of connectedness, life satisfaction, positive relationships with others, self confidence, willingness to admit errors, low self pity, low depression, low anxiety, improved immune system functioning10 Metta loving kindness to self, othersOverall, I enjoyed this book thoroughly and feel there is a lot I can learn from this book but then the only question is, how much are you willing to apply and practice That is the question which I believe will make the big difference A worthwhile read and amazing investment.Overall rating 10 out of 10 Loy Machedoloymachedo.com If we define an introvert as someone who loses energy from social activity and an extrovert as someoe who gains energy from them, then I have usually been an introvert, enjoying social interaction but needing considerable time to recharge afterwards Since reading this book, however, this seems to have changed I just came back from a three day meetup feeling refreshed and energetic, and the very thought of being social has started feeling muchenticing I stil get momentarily drained of me If we define an introvert as someone who loses energy from social activity and an extrovert as someoe who gains energy from them, then I have usually been an introvert, enjoying social interaction but needing considerable time to recharge afterwards Since reading this book, however, this seems to have changed I just came back from a three day meetup feeling refreshed and energetic, and the very thought of being social has started feeling muchenticing I stil get momentarily drained of mental energy right after social interaction, but I recover much quicker and feel better afterwards In principle, these effects might be temporary, as the effects of many self help books tend to be But this book feels different, because rather than giving me some new technique that I might use for a while and then forget about once it was no longer exciting, it made me realize that I was already doing some of the things that it said that I should be doing, just without realizing it.Previously I had always felt bad about the fact that I wasn t very talkative, and often had difficulties coming up with things to say Naturally, being self conscious about this fact would make me nervous and panicky about what should I say in conversations, making the issue worse Probably the biggest single thing that the book did was to make me realize that the most of a person s charisma actually comes from general demeanor and body language, meaning that a person can be charismatic even if they re not very talkative.The book also made me realize that I already naturally had some of the kinds of charisma that it described, particularly the ones that it calls focus and kindness charisma In brief, focus charisma comes from giving the other person your full attention and being genuinely interested in what they have to say, whereas kindness charisma comes from having compassion and warmth towards them Both kinds of mental states then become reflected in your facial expressions, body language and voice Being interested in other people and being sympathetic to their concerns and problems are already among my natural tendencies, and the book taught me that I can actually improve my social skills by just focusing on and tapping into those two tendencies The book also discusses visionary charisma, which I don t tap into as often but which I do still access to times, and authority charisma, which goesoutside most of my natural tendencies In addition, the book also gave a number of exercises and techniques which I could use to further strengthen those tendencies, or to improve my social skills in general Reader, pass by How is this book different from so many other self help books which promote good deportment Answer Not very For an author who brags throughout the book about her lofty credentials and celebrated clientele, this is pretty thin stuff and rather stingy with its insights, too Charisma is a myth in American commercial culture the world of magazines and TV pundits Charisma is a word deployed as a figure of public relations or uncritical journalism , to suggest that a per Reader, pass by How is this book different from so many other self help books which promote good deportment Answer Not very For an author who brags throughout the book about her lofty credentials and celebrated clientele, this is pretty thin stuff and rather stingy with its insights, too Charisma is a myth in American commercial culture the world of magazines and TV pundits Charisma is a word deployed as a figure of public relations or uncritical journalism , to suggest that a person s popularity, or celebrity, is not the result of anything so mundane as an affable manner plus good publicity, but rather some ineffable quality known as charisma The Charisma Myth does not explain the myth of charisma instead it says that charisma is not innate, but can be taught It is at least half right about that.However, what the book expounds is merely that which, in a previous era, would have been called, deportment Good deportment may be a necessary condition for charisma, but it is far from sufficient.You could follow all the lessons in this book and you still wouldn t have charisma, because it attaches to a person who in addition to good deportment has already achieved some measure of fame or infamy, celebrity or notoriety, among the persons she or he meets Charisma is in the eye of the beholder, and it cannot be controlled entirely by the vigor of one s handshake, the rhythm of one s speech, or even the sincerity of one s attitude If you need to improve your meet n greet tactics, this book will do fine But if you want charisma, make sure your strategy includes the services of a good public relations firm, a savvy advance team, or best of all a journalist who will describe you as already possessing charisma

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